The habit of changing your partner –swinging-is an alternative way of life, based on making friendship, generally between the couples, with the purpose of doing some recreation activities that can finish with different types of sex between two or more couples.
A lot of couples find the sharing of feelings and fantasies with somebody else extremely stimulating, and admit that they become closer after the first swinging experiences. Swinging is a good modality to learn more about the sexuality of your partner, and also, to increase your emotional knowledge about her/him, and to develop the communication abilities. Although is a male-female activity, sometimes can be accepted the single persons. Female bisexuality is something usual in swinging, while the male one is seldom meet. Swinging is about various partners and sexual experience, a more intense social life, by making new friends, the fulfillment of a sexual fantasies, avoiding the sexual monotony in couple, increasing the trust in yourself, crossing the inhibitions.
Swinging consolidates the relation between partners, by trying new sexual experiences together, as a couple, without destroying the relation with your life partner. It is the perfect place for women to expose their bisexuality and the perfect place to meet very different type of partners.
A good swinging involves free communication with your partner, settling rules that will be explained to the couple that you want to be. These rules can be changed in time, after the living more intense the experience of such a life style. Free conversation and communication with the other couple is very important, sex is not everything!
Watch your behavior, don`t rush to put your hands on somebody`s body. You will make him/her feel uncomfortable, and you nay be disliked by that person. Don`t be too insistent with the other couple, let them do the things in their way.
Taking care of things like these will provide you an excellent swinging!
Known as having or watching exhibitionist sex in a public or semi-public place, usually outdoors, the dogging is an adventurous and exciting way to enjoy sex. Often, there are more than two participants; group sex and occasionally even gang bangs can come. For a pleasant and safe dogging you should take care of some important things, such as: wearing a condom, and some extra condoms, in case that somebody else shows up in your action. For more comfort you can have lube with you. Talk to your partner about your dogging plan, the place where you want to do it, settle some rules with him or her. You can have a “password” to use in case that one of you wants to finish the sex episode. Be careful and discrete when you chose the dogging place, since the dogging is not exactly tolerated by law. Don`t rein your enthusiasm, because the more you will get involved in sex the more delighted the audience will be, and your sexual pleasure will increase. Let them be a part of your action but don`t hesitate to say no if somebody gets too insistent! Finish the sex with an orgy, let the audience know when you are to the highest point of the pleasure and when the entire episode is over. You can thank them for participation and don`t forget to clean up the place: take with you the used condoms, lingerie, toys, wrappers, etc.
If you are a watcher, you should know that not all the couples like to be watched so approach carefully. Don`t rush the couple, don`t close uninvited. Don`t yell, swear or use inadequate language. If the couple asks you to leave, do so, it means that they need privacy. Once the dogging is over, leave the place, don`t hang around with no reason.
When you’re newly to swinging, you might feel a little embarrassed, because you don’t know the rules, what’s allow and what’s not or maybe you’re just nervous. And that’s okay as long as nerves can be a powerful aphrodisiac. Get informed about the swinging rules from the internet sites where you can read all about it, you can meet couples that you might like to swing with, read about others couples swinging experience, and much more. Talk to your partner about it, settle some rules, don`t hesitate to tell him/her what you think and feel about the swinging, about what he or she expects from the swinging experience. When you and your partner find a couple that wants to swing, settle a date in a private place, that makes all of you comfortable, your or their home, or any other pleasant and relaxing place. Be open - minded and sincere, have a free conversation with the other couple, find out what are their thoughts and feelings, their fantasies and rules, their style of life and talk about yours, too. There are many forms of swimming so, at the very beginning you should settle within your couple, and between the couples too, what do you want to do and how. Don`t forget that swinging is a social activity that involves people meetings, conversations, the beginning of friendships, things that are not different from other social common activities. The most appreciated things in a swingers community are responsibility, sociability, open mind and stability in the relation with other couple.
Do you want to share your feelings, desires, fantasies, not only with your partner but with other too? Are you and your partner ready for that style of life? The most sincere answers to these questions should be a good start if you want to enter into the swinging community.
If you want to start as a dogger and you don`t know how to do it, just like in any other field, information is the key. Search the internet for dogging sites, join the online dogging groups, forums or chat, find as much information as possible, read about other doggers experiences. Regarding the places for dogging, the doggers choose open air, parks, car parks, and sometimes, the cinema halls. On the dogging sites you can also find out about the doggers favorite locations. You can arrange meetings, invite someone to your dogging sex, via Internet or phone. Your dogging preparation must include a list of things such as: condoms, latex surgical gloves for internal penetration, lube based on water. For your comfort don`t forget a blanket to lie on, if you plan to have sex on places like the ground or a picnic table. Baby wipes, paper towels, and tissues are things that should be very close to you, for your cleaning up. Put your personal stuff in a safe place, so no one could see your full name and address. Pay attention to the doggers signals: flashing lights, interior or exterior lights. When a couple of doggers let the internal light on, it means that they want to be watched. If they want more from you, they will let you know. For example, if they lift the window car, it means they want to fondle or to be fondled or more.
In the end don`t forget to clean up the place, keep in touch, if you want, with the doggers that you would love to meet again, by giving them your business card or a phone number. On your way back home make sure that no one follows your car to see where you leave. Talk to your partner about what happened, what do you and her/him liked or disliked, what do you want to do next time, and so on.
After you (or you and your partner) found a couple to swing with, met each other and decided to get some action, a very good way to start is the slow swinging. Whether you are solo or with a mate, with a single person or another couple, you can break in swinging, softly.
First of all you got to find a room that everyone is comfortable in, arrange the atmosphere with candles and music, if that`s make you relax and get into the mood. Don`t be afraid to feel sexy, try to feel the charm of the adventure.
And there are two ways the night (or day) can continue. Kissing, touching, and exploring are all on list, but sexual intercourse is not. Not at this moment of time at least.
You could even want to follow the person that you went with and not touch your new friends. Or perhaps you only want to look on the other couple to see how the passion overwhelms them. It’s awesome how sexy you can feel just by seeing someone other starting the action! And if the mood gets you, you can go over to another partner and keep on touching and exploring. Sexual activity is not a choice, so you can get mighty inventive with your imagination. And whatsoever finish up happening, you’re all in the same room. Nobody leaves for another place. All of the dense breathing and heat stays put. Much more satisfaction will come. So, just take it easy. You can simply caress your partner, exploring slowly his or her body, find out what makes him or her to turn on, let your body free to be explored.
But if you feel ready to move on you can go to the hard swinging, where the rules are changed in your advantage. If you want to get to the next level, to be in the same room with as your partner or not, all is up to you, is your choice and your fantasy. Important is to arrange clear limits before, in order to avoid any miscommunication or wrong signals.